What Does It Mean to Love Someone?

It puzzles me sometimes... 

How do you say you love someone and deliberately choose to do something that you know, will hurt them, in the very next second?

How do you say you love someone and deliberately choose to put them through a night of pain and tears?

How do you say you love someone and deliberately choose to prolong whatever pain that they are going through?

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In relationships, we get to know a person.. their likes and dislikes.. their strengths and their fears, their past and their future goals..

But why do people deliberately choose to hurt someone who they claim to love, so very much? 

Why do people make the effort to make their way into a persons life and get to know all of their flaws, dislikes and fears, only to one day use it against them? To deliberately CHOOSE to do something they very clearly know, will break, that person's heart?

How can this be love..? How can they claim this to be love?

Why do you build something up only to break it all down, one day?

Why do you take the risk of creating a scar that is beyond repair?

What does it mean to love someone? Because to me, this is not... love.

Because love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails...